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  1. Shannah

    This is really some wonderful advice that I wish I had known years ago. My kids are growing up and I’m starting to come to the realization that I’m not sure of who am I now without children “to raise”.

  2. Yes! I couldn’t agree with this piece of advice more. Being a mom is just a beautiful extention of who we are and is so important for self care to remember who we were before our children. I love being a mom so much that it’s easy to forget about taking care of our soul because we are busy taking care of our littles but it’s so important!

  3. Yes! This is probably the best advice I never received too! We are the same about restaurants. There are some days it isn’t so easy, but we keep at it because it is something we enjoy doing.

  4. Being a mum is just one part of our identity. No matter how important someone is to you, you can’t lose yourself in service to them. Maybe you can for a while, but eventually it’s going to get you burnt out, and that’s not good for the kid either. Sometimes you need to put yourself first, and sometimes you need to step back. I was reluctant about putting my son in daycare, but being able to miss him, and find myself again in that baby-free time, was a lot better for our relationship. My husband and I also have some time together without baby and it’s improved things between us too. Our son also loves playing with the other kids and babies, he wouldn’t get much opportunity to socialize with other babies otherwise. So I let go of the guilt over that.
    Great article, take care.

  5. These are great tips for new mums and even a great reminder for second time mom like me. With so many things happening in our mom life, forgetting about who we are/used to be is just so easy. This post had me thinking.

  6. This is very important advice! Most of us change when we become mothers – our priorities, wants, needs, the works. But that does not mean we should give up on all the things that matter the most to us! I was a workaholic prior kids. I lived and breathed through my work, it was something that I was really good at, but also passionate about. When I started expecting my firstborn, I mourned the loss of my workaholic-me. I knew personally that I would never be able to dedicate myself as thoroughly to work as I had done before, because I wanted to give that time to my kids. I was a full-time sahm for 4 years, then gradually went back to university and started doing things that were important to me personally again. I lost that full-on workaholic person, but I found something better. I became a mother dedicated to my children, but it wasn’t until I started working again, or more so, living my own life also again, that our entire family changed for the better. I am happier now and more at ease since I started doing both, being a full-time mom but also working. So yes, remembering who you were before kids, and taking bits and pieces with you into motherhood, is one of the best things you can do for yourself and your family!

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